QUESTION #7 -- April 5, 2008
Happy Spring and thanks for your continued interest in building this question-asking community.
In pondering Question 6, I would definitely tell someone ten years my junior to remove all the distractions, get clear on what their heart desires, and pursue it. Maybe not full time because we all know how interruptive the practicalities of life can be, but slowly, until your bliss laps the mundane and flourishes.
Several of my friends have offered unsolicited explanations for why they don't respond to the questions here, and I was so glad to learn why. The reasons differed, from 'I think too much and just don't do it' to 'I'm not as strong a writer as the others'. I didn't realize this process in itself fosters bits of self-consciousness and self-criticism. Certainly if you're not moved by a certain question or don't feel inspired, understood. But I'm using these reasons to motivate...
QUESTION #7 -- WHAT MAKES YOU SHY AWAY FROM DIGGING DEEP/ANSWERING, BOTH HERE AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, IN YOUR LIFE?
PART DEUX: I'd love to hear what questions you might want to pose to this group. Bring em on!!!!
In pondering Question 6, I would definitely tell someone ten years my junior to remove all the distractions, get clear on what their heart desires, and pursue it. Maybe not full time because we all know how interruptive the practicalities of life can be, but slowly, until your bliss laps the mundane and flourishes.
Several of my friends have offered unsolicited explanations for why they don't respond to the questions here, and I was so glad to learn why. The reasons differed, from 'I think too much and just don't do it' to 'I'm not as strong a writer as the others'. I didn't realize this process in itself fosters bits of self-consciousness and self-criticism. Certainly if you're not moved by a certain question or don't feel inspired, understood. But I'm using these reasons to motivate...
QUESTION #7 -- WHAT MAKES YOU SHY AWAY FROM DIGGING DEEP/ANSWERING, BOTH HERE AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, IN YOUR LIFE?
PART DEUX: I'd love to hear what questions you might want to pose to this group. Bring em on!!!!
Just as I am getting ready to answer the deep questions I ask myself, the tea pot boils, the phone rings, I find fuzz on the carpet, I remember to floss, or I suddenly feel required to check the value of the dollar against the Euro. As a result, I've got clean carpets, good gums - and a great reason to wake up again tomorrow, so I can ask myself the big questions once again.
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I missed answering the last question because at the time, well I wanted to give it thought and the more time I gave it thought...the more "stuff" seemed to come bouncing in my life. Not that I didn't want to just that I ran out of time I suppose to dig deep. As for my life, it seems that I've been consumed as of late with digging deep and trying to answer some major questions. A lot has happened over the past few weeks and it's made me question many many things...however, are there those questions that I shy away from? Yes, just yesterday someone asked me a loaded question and because I didn't know this person that well (or least right now) and the fear of exposing myself I held back. I think maybe that's the biggest thing...fear of what one might discover if they do go deep and pull back a few layers. I often find it interesting when people say they don't like therapy...fear of what might be uncovered. I think too many of us flow through this world with masks on our faces (mine included) for fear of judgement or rejection or just even the thought of what we think others should think we should be. Get it? It's impossible to not care a little bit of what others think of you, however when it inhibits the real you, than it can be a real problem. I shrink away from the deepness that reveals or exposes an open heart or possibly any part of my heart at all...however recently, I'm doing my best to uncover that fear and hopefully will make a huge difference in the future...at least I started here somewhat
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fear, greed, sloth and the other four. human nature you might call it. an examined life is a life worth living but its a lot easier to eat ice cream and watch movies.
or as a once funny Dennis Miller joked about Christians who seem to only find God when things go bad, "Nobody finds God on prom night" when life is easy we have no desire to ask hard questions.
if you want to add an element of spark to this i would be amused by blunt honest reviews of comments. like the prophets of ancient Judea you could be that irritating voice that makes us uncomfortable with our luxury and silly internet excuses for being selfish and fearful.
(but not me)
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fear of exposing every emotion comfortably stashed deep within. It's a choice between staying safe and tidy or opening the door to the discomforts of the unknown flood gates. It's like choosing to sleep on a plush feather bed with 400+ thread count sheets or sleeping on the hard cold floor.
Although I like to dig deep most of the time, I do prefer the featherbed!
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I usually get the notice about questions here when I am on the road and bogged down with a million things...so I come on a rainy day such as today and answer all that I have missed (sorry about that). In life I am pretty much an open book for all to read. There is not much I won't answer...I kind of feel like if it is my truth then there is no reason for me to worry what other's think or hide it.
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Laziness. Comfort. Ignorance. Scorn. Disdain. TV. Limited imagination. Why do you care?
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