2012-02-13T12:04:30Z http://blog.calisquestioncafe.com/comments/atom.aspx Quick Blogcast tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-10-11:3741604 michael 2010-10-12T01:07:50Z 2010-10-12T01:07:50Z hey Cali<br />I have been sleeping on this one!<br />How can there be a BEST?<br />With every one so unique so perfect!<br />As the Budda said "your enemy is your best friend playing your worst enemy"<br />Only your best friend would put up with that much shit to teach you your god damn lesson's.<br />I love you all! tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-22:3644707 Bey christophe 2010-09-22T06:28:08Z 2010-09-22T06:28:08Z My closest friend … I would feel as if I betrayed him if I didn’t mention first my holy friend “Saint Trinity”.<br />Why? Because smelling cheese, red wine and frog’s legs is such a tasteful combination the universe has given to me. Besides that, I must say that a close relationship is very tasty and nourishing too. My closest friend is the one with whom my relationship is based relative to how much our differences as well as our common life interests feed us. <br />The combination of these two often challenges my emotional and intellectual comfort, but if I overcome this, it brings out emotions, creativity, understanding, and strengthens my relationship with the other person. <br />During the 44 summers of my Homo sapiens life, I’ve met few people who have positively contributed to both of these opposing nuances. When I have found both of these working well in conjunction, we grew to be closest friends for long times.<br />I don’t expect something back from the friend to whom I give. Sometimes it happens, and other times I get it back from another friend. At times, total strangers have shared, given or received, as a closest friend would have done.<br />Christophe tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-02:3543177 Joan Gale http://www.housesellingblues.com 2010-09-03T01:17:28Z 2010-09-03T01:17:28Z Another very good question which makes me pause and think for a while... <br /><br />My immediate response is to name Patty, my oldest, "bestest friend forever" which is what we've been calling each other for over 40 years now, while walking home from school. <br /><br />Patty is almost an organic sister. She who remembers my grandmother -- gone now for over 30 years. <br /><br />But during our long friendship there has been many other "best friends" collected along the way while traveling and with every geographic move I've made. Best friends made in San Francisco, Sonoma, Sedona, Panama and now Portland. Each is a great treasure and a best friend in a different way. With each I share amazing memories that only the two of us can savor. And each provides a different kind of reciprocal nourishment that has kept me sane and glued together throughout the years. tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-02:3542378 chris kilham http://www.medicinehunter.com 2010-09-02T21:26:16Z 2010-09-02T21:26:16Z I have a couple of closest friends, both of whom I have known for most of my life. Part of our enduring friendship is the time, decades starting in our formative years. But most of our friendships are based on accepting each other through great familiarity, enjoying each other's company, appreciating our conversations, having great times when we get together. tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-02:3542312 Andi 2010-09-02T21:07:22Z 2010-09-02T21:07:22Z Over the years....I have longed for the friendships that you carry throughout your life...yet, having moved from Canada to the USA in '92...it was hard to keep up the friendships from my youth.<br /><br />I spent many years in my 20s and 30s wanting to flee the US...run back to the comfort of family in Canada...as I was always taught that you cannot count on anyone like you can on your family. Then, at 40, I woke up to the reality that I wasn't moving back. I was a grown woman with a family, a career and had many people in my life in the USA who enriched my life in so many ways.<br /><br />While there isn't ONE friend that I can call my BFF....I am fortunate to have many friends, both female and male, who I know I can count on in my hours of both happiness and sorrow....and everything in between. They are sincere, authentic people who accept me...for the "me" that I am. <br /><br />I have often been surprised by the open ear and warmth of complete strangers and since chatting people up or connecting with another human being has never been a challenge for me, I have had the good fortune to make friends along the way. While many are what we call "acquaintances"...I feel that if I ever needed something that they were capable of providing....whether their attention, advice or business connections, they would. <br /><br />I see the good in people...I see their desire to connect...and I know that all we all really want is some warmth and validation. I seek it and give it and am given it in return. <br /><br />I think I am afraid of counting on one person for a deep friendship... What would happen if that treasure ever went away? Therefore, I treasure the folks I have collected....my family of friends. Thank you all for keeping me sane...keeping me smiling and allowing me to keep on being me. tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-02:3542293 Rob http://www.robkaye.com 2010-09-02T21:04:53Z 2010-09-02T21:04:53Z Great posting Cali, and it's good timing...<br /><br />Lately I've been wondering that if I ever got married, who would be my best man?<br /><br />I'm really blessed with several great friends who are like brothers to me, and I also have sisters like yourself who are real mensches too<br /><br />Maybe it's a sign of growth since I always had a best friend as a kid, but these days, I have several best friends...<br /><br />Each one if different from the next and yet the same as me...How cool is that!<br /><br />I still keep in touch with best friends from the past, and they're touchstones in my life<br /><br />I'm grateful that I have a bunch of numbers to call in the middle of the night if I ever need them tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-09-02:3541097 Carla http://www.PROUDgirls.com 2010-09-02T16:50:25Z 2010-09-02T16:50:25Z Well...being that we both grew up in the same home, I hope our answer is the same sissy! Remember mom always told us, "your sister is your best friend" and this much I know is true. I wouldn't be the only one here who knows all the brilliant and beautiful qualities you possess and how lucky I am to benefit from them. What I'm most grateful for is how you've taught me to live outside the box and explore people, places and mostly my own soul. As your younger sister, I've always been fortunate enough to follow your lead and reek all your beauty. I also know that no matter what, we'll always have the glue of sister soul to keep us together and love and appreciate each other regardless of the circumstances and that is true friendship. I know that we are so similar in so many ways yet so different and others and I believe that where I need growth, I take from you and visa versa, so with that said, I believe I give you back differently yet equally. Now wipe your tears and tell me how much you love me too! xo tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-07-09:3301403 Katrina 2010-07-09T09:38:30Z 2010-07-09T09:38:30Z I travel constantly and started to bring home one little item from each new place I traveled to. I put them on a shelf in my house and basically once they go up there I forget about them...so I realized to me these items were meaningless and a waste of money. <br />Now every new place i go to i try to experience something i never have...the memories of these experiences far surpass the memories little dust collectors spark in me. It can be something silly like trying every different sauce coons of fries in Amsterdam sittig in a square and laughing that I am having such a good time indulging or it can be a biplane ride over the grand canyon...big or small...cheap or expensive...as long as it was an experience it stays with me forever...and the stories i get to share are priceless! tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-07-09:3300664 Andi 2010-07-09T05:07:17Z 2010-07-09T05:07:17Z I loved this question, Cali....and am always charmed on so many levels by your depth. <br /><br />I spent 6 days, over the 4th, hanging at the beach in Montauk and at friends. I feel so blessed for so very many reasons. Being able to run on that gorgeous beach made the soul sing. I swear I could cry right now thinking about the beauty of the morning...the sunshine, me on a rock and the ocean at my feet....I miss it so very much.<br /><br />More importantly....my friends...old and new. What amazing people I have in my life. I miss them more than anything and would happily live on a commune if I could pick the people to live on it with. Then there is my great kid and hubby....what blessings.<br /><br />Having said all that....scoring a pair of Gucci sandals I have been coveting for 2 months at 75 off....that too was a high!<br /><br />Hey....I'm a Gemini....so if you are reading conflict....that is my excuse :-) <br /><br />Yet....at the end of the day....my most precious things are my memories. tag:blog.calisquestioncafe.com,2010-07-07:3296643 dee 2010-07-07T21:05:01Z 2010-07-07T21:05:01Z I would have to say both as well.<br />We recently returned from 2 weeks (and getting married) in British Columbia..traveling to various parts of beautiful BC. Taking in the culture, indulging in the local cuisine and having a great time. We chose local art and Native Pacific Northwest Indian art to bring home and decorate our house, an investment in our future together and on our memories of a lovely time spent and reminder of the beauty and simplicity of where we got married. Mostly, our pictures that we took hundreds literally possibly close to 1000 and the the little things that my now husband grabbed off the cuff to be placed in a future scrapbook. I think this way we are able to capture it all in a few different "priceless" ways